After 21 years and an approaching empty nest, my husband has taken a new mistress His new, or rather, "renovated" mistress is physical activity. To sum up, they're incapable of loving anyone but themselves and the thought of a marriage counselor freaks them out as this would mean confronting their ultimate excuse of "I'm too busy". We have been together since his second year of med school so I have gone through step one and step two and all the shelf exams that were taking up his time, now I have to do the 80 hours thank God for the cap and usually he works more than that Good luck to all of you and I know we will all make it. Whenever you're down or lonely, read the yellow bits. If I catch you in the back seat trying to pick her locks, I'm going to send you back to mother in a card board box. I felt like I was 'on call' for when he would be available to see me. I was the bishops' daughter who went to BYU but didn't go on a mission because I was already married with a 10 month old by my 21st birthday. The scenario where she refused to watch a possibly 'anti' documentary and wanted to watch church-sanctioned material sounds like a red flag. Break up with her. And, for anyone "dating" a married doctor.
Mormonism is a religion that's as manipulative as it is comforting. You'll question your parenting decisions but he won't be involved in supporting you because he'll have no idea what's going on and little interest. I realize I rambled a bit and may not have answered all your questions; feel free to ask anything else you want to know. The brethren have taught that there is an ideal pattern for marriage. She asked me to read that site and write down questions. I have read some of the comment here and would like to share my experience. Though my mother never openly complained about this, I could see it in her eyes. So yea, I blame residency for his general 'unavailability', and I would assume that is the case with your guy too. I have recently got admission in PhD and would be joining shortly. I'm currently married to a second year resident in emergency medicine.
Best of both worlds if you ask me. When we are together it is amazing he obviously has work that he takes care of when I am there but for the most part he tries his best to leave work at the office. Can I add to this extremely old thread. But what does it really mean to be a patriarch, to lead your tribe. As others mentioned, when they are home they are often exhausted, catching up on sleep, preparing a presentation or catching up on notes. This lack of inclusion within the general society makes them socially awkward, especially around men. Spending a lifetime single is not something most people would choose to do, but fear of being forever single should never be a deciding factor in entering a marriage, lest serious problems go unaddressed before serious commitments are made.
I hope it all works out for you. I knew a guy who joined the Mormon church because he thought it would help him date a certain Mormon girl, a girl who refused to date non-Mormons. How do you handle the ocd behavior. Mormons can be pretty crazy without it. Dont aggressively try to destroy her faith but bring up philosophical thinking points.